Codependence

Signs of Codependence

• You have no idea what normal is
• Your moods are directly dependent upon the moods of the people you're close to
• You attempt to control people's moods because if they feel good, you'll feel good.
• You must always have the approval of others
• You blame others for your feelings or behavior
• You have a pattern of getting into abusive relationships/friendships
• You minimize your unhealthy relationships/friendships
• You defend or minimize your family of origin's unhealthy patterns of behavior
• You "stuff" your feelings
• You rage at others
• You feel ashamed to cry in front of anyone
• You feel numb when it comes to expressing emotions
• You feel uncomfortable when others express strong emotions
• You make yourself feel better with addictive substances or behaviors
• You have never learned to say "no" or "that's not gonna work for me"
• You feel bored and empty if there isn't a crisis in your life, or someone to help
• You fear being alone
• You lie rather than speak your truth
• You're afraid of authority figures
• You don't have a clue how to have fun
• You are very self critical
• You feel guilty when you stand up for yourself instead of giving in
• You are, or love, a workaholic
• You are a reactor in life, rather than an actor

Source: The Wellness Institute

Recommended Reading

• Breaking Free from the Victim Trap: Reclaiming Your Personal Power by Diane Zimberoff
• Codependent No More by Melody Beattie