Codependence

Signs of Codependence

You have no idea what normal is
Your moods are directly dependent upon the moods of the people you're close to
You attempt to control people's moods because if they feel good, you'll feel good.
You must always have the approval of others
You blame others for your feelings or behavior
You have a pattern of getting into abusive relationships/friendships
You minimize your unhealthy relationships/friendships
You defend or minimize your family of origin's unhealthy patterns of behavior
You "stuff" your feelings
You rage at others
You feel ashamed to cry in front of anyone
You feel numb when it comes to expressing emotions
You feel uncomfortable when others express strong emotions
You make yourself feel better with addictive substances or behaviors
You have never learned to say "no" or "that's not gonna work for me"
You feel bored and empty if there isn't a crisis in your life, or someone to help
You fear being alone
You lie rather than speak your truth
You're afraid of authority figures
You don't have a clue how to have fun
You are very self critical
You feel guilty when you stand up for yourself instead of giving in
You are, or love, a workaholic
You are a reactor in life, rather than an actor

Source: The Wellness Institute




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